He started it!

They're arguing again. More yelling, crying, or even fighting. Or maybe your child's teacher or homeroom teacher called to tell you they've been in a fight with someone again? Any parent's first reaction is to stop the argument, punish the guilty parties (or even everyone involved), or lecture them on how obedient children should behave.

But Daniele Novara, a renowned Italian child psychologist, teacher, and conflict specialist, believes otherwise. He insists that every parent should reconsider their approach to children's arguments!

Using simple explanations and numerous examples, the author demonstrates the crucial importance of giving children the opportunity to resolve disputes independently. After all, adults suppressing children's conflicts and forcing them to make peace negatively impacts the development of social skills and the ability to build interpersonal relationships. Children's quarrels allow us to realize what is inherent in us: the ability to coexist with one another while still expressing our dissatisfaction.

Furthermore, the author's method will help parents overcome the worry that allowing children to quarrel is wrong and that their children could get hurt. This book is the first step toward learning to support your children without resorting to constant scolding, scolding, or intrusiveness. Ultimately, this is the key to a happy childhood and parenting.

Daniele Novara